"I never did escape the darkness. I just learned to love myself there." ~ Jared Ciofalo
I have struggled with the concept of beauty for years. Since I was eight years old, I could tell that my dark skin was not wanted. It was something to be mocked. Something to be looked at with sympathy. oh my poor darling, how will you go about finding a man with that skin tone … Continue reading Beauty.
Let’s face it, being vulnerable can be terrifying. I think the scariest part is wondering what others will think—how will they receive our honesty? Am I too much? Am I crazy for thinking and feeling this way? Will he/she leave me if I am being honest? These are some of the thoughts that run … Continue reading Vulnerability.
When you believe that you are inadequate and unworthy of love and appreciation, this impacts on how you relate to others in your life. How you see yourself is how you think others see you—so when your mind is pervaded with self-doubt and criticism, you can’t help but think that others are judging you too. … Continue reading You are enough.
All of us have wounds of our own. Sometimes, we're not even aware of some of the wounds we carry. The hurt and discomfort that seeps from these wounds can colour the way we see ourselves, and pollute the way we relate to others. If we don't tend to these wounds, they can deepen. “Tending” … Continue reading Breaking apart.
When you abandon yourself, you teach others to abandon you too. Abandoning yourself means to neglect your truest feelings, desires, and needs, and gloss over them as if they are unimportant. This sends the message to others that it is okay for them to neglect your needs and feelings too. So how can we be … Continue reading Abandonment.
It took me a while to realise that society has been teaching me the wrong things about love. Love in all its forms. We are taught to give endlessly to others, and to meet demanding expectations that often leave us forgetting the most basic thing. I have learnt something that has been repeated to me … Continue reading An open letter about love…